When I gave birth to my son, my family and friends said, “Enjoy every minute because it goes really fast.”
They weren’t kidding. Noah turns 3 years old this month and I’m already wondering where the time went.
But I feel fortunate. For the last few years, I have put into place a practice called mindfulness.
Mindfulness means you are in the here and now…you are paying attention to what’s in front of you.
Back in the day I was quite the opposite. It seemed that whenever I was at work, my mind was on all of the things I needed to do at home and when I was at home, my mind was on the things I needed to do at work.
Even at the time, I questioned why my mind was somewhere else. I never really came up with a good answer. I just knew that I really didn’t like the distraction in my head.
Once I was able to learn and practice the true concept of mindfulness, my world changed for me. Not that one completely stops thinking about other things (because we still need to plan for the future), but that piece of me shrunk enormously.
For me, mindfulness is not something that is automatic. I don’t automatically get immersed in the moment and think about nothing else.
But instead, I am highly aware of where my thoughts are at any given moment. And when my head is somewhere other than where I am right now, I pull myself back into the moment.
If I’m playing with Noah and I find myself thinking about my upcoming weight loss program, I make sure I put those thoughts aside and totally focus on what we are doing together.
I observe the way he plays and takes in information. I’m in awe of the way his mind works.
I look at his feet and think about how cute his toes are. I stroke his hair and smell the top of his head. (Yes, I smell my child. I want to remember this too.) All of my senses keep me mindful.
It is important to me that I do this. I don’t want to miss a single moment with him because time really does move by quickly.
And the truth is life is not going to wait for you to pay attention! It’s going to roll along whether you’re paying attention or not.
So the next time you find your mind wondering to places other than where you are, pull your awareness back into the present moment.
Your future self will thank you. (And so will your child.)
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Dedicated to my husband.
To those who proudly served our country so that we may enjoy our freedoms...thank you is not merely enough.
Although we may not understand the nightmares you go through, we can see your pain.
We offer up more than a thank you.
We offer you our prayers because you need strength to endure what you've seen, done and felt.
We offer you our love and light because you may be having trouble seeing yours.
You deserve more than our gratitude.
Our veterans have gone into the darkest places so that you may continue to live your life the way you choose.
In doing so, they may now suffer the deepest of pain.
God's love is powerful and healing.
Please take a moment to close your eyes and pray for the health and happiness of our veterans. Send them love, light and peace.
Regardless of your affiliation, prayer is powerful. And I believe that all who are prayed for can feel it.
Thank you is not merely enough.
We talk about it all the time, my husband and I. How we need to have a regularly scheduled "date night." You know...time set aside just for us to bond, stay connected and nurture our relationship.
But it never happens.
By the time the work day is over, small chores are done and our son is in bed, we're done for. Our brains just want to shut down and our bodies quit. It's time for bed!
But today we seized the day...which wasn't an easy choice.
I have just spent several days out of town for business, so work has piled up and needs to be taken care of. But, just as important, is the fact that I have been away from my guys for too long. I miss playing with my son. And as noted, my husband and I need some serious "us" time.
It's tough deciding where to put your time when your heart calls out for one thing, but your bank account is in need of another.
Here is how I reasoned it out: I fell back on my core desired feelings.
A couple of my core desired feeling are Love and Connection. Both of which fuel and are fueled by the loves of my life. I simply ask myself which choice is going to support my core desired feelings. The answer, of course, was "I NEED A DATE WITH MY HUSBAND."
The work can wait.
My husband's work schedule is such that he is off of work on some days when our son is in daycare. This happened to be the case today. It was a perfect time for us to devote to us.
We snuggled on the couch this morning watching cheesy morning talk shows, went to lunch in celebration of Cinco de Mayo and settled into a quaint coffee shop in the afternoon to dream about our plans to buy a new home and expand my business.
Such simple things. SO GOOD!!!!!!
We were able to pick up our son early from daycare so I could spend time showering him with the kisses and squeezes we missed while I was away. And now, as my husband finishes up dinner and cleaning up the dishes, I'm able to clean up some of the work items that need immediate attention.
IT ALL WORKS OUT.
And it worked out because I allowed my core desired feelings to drive my decisions for the day. I feel Love. I feel Connection.
The Desire Map started out as a book, written by Danielle LaPorte. From there, it became the driver of over 500 book clubs around the world.
At the heart of it all? A commitment to feeling good.
Cynics would say that choosing to place your focus on feeling good is silly – maybe, even selfish.
But I (and thousands of other Desire Mappers around the globe) know better. Because who wants to live a life that doesn’t feel good?
Who wants to work in a job that sucks their life force?
Who wants to be in relationships where they don’t feel nourished and honored?
Who wants to feel bored in their own life?
Not me. And I’m pretty sure, not you.
The Desire Map taught me how to make better choices by making decisions based on my core desired feelings. And that boils down to living a life that feels good to live.
I’ve watched this book inspire major transformation in my own life and in the lives of many others. I believe in this material — I know that it works.
… which is why, I’m taking my passion for The Desire Map one step further. I have become an Official Licensed Facilitator of The Desire Map. Woo!
I’m stepping up and offering to guide other people through the desire mapping process by hosting my very own workshops. First up: Life Unleashed...with The Desire Map.
For more details on exactly what we’ll cover at the workshop, dates and signup fees, click HERE.
I don’t believe we’re on this planet to live unfulfilled lives, or to let our potential go unrealized.
I DO believe that we’re each here to design a life that feels good. Feel good at work, in your clothes, in your relationships, in your heart.
It’d be my honor to support you in creating that. I’d love to see you at my Desire Map workshops.
The New Year, for many, marks a new beginning. It is a time of renewal. A time to make right all that we did wrong last year. It is a time of new hope.
But let's examine this for a moment. How long does this feeling last? How long does the energy of positive intention burn before you are once again settled into your old ways?
My past experience as a fitness center employee tells me that great intentions begin to fade about mid-February. My experience as a wellness coach tells me that great intentions begin to fade about mid-February. My experience with my own great intentions in the past began to fade mid-February. So the life span of this time of renewal and hope is about 6 weeks.
But there is hope!
You CAN make every one of your new "beginnings" last a lifetime. Here's how...
Take just a moment and get in touch with the feelings you have about the upcoming year. How does it feel to know that you are on your way to finally losing the weight? Or are you looking forward to having a better year financially? Will this be your year to open yourself to finding true love? It creates a feeling of excitement, doesn't it? It feels empowering.
Now imagine what it would be like if you could capture this feeling of empowerment and renewal every day and in every moment...forever. You would actually achieve everything you wanted. There would be no end to your resolutions. You would simply be living them.
What's the secret? Treat every moment as a new beginning. Because it is. In each and every moment, you have the opportunity to start over. You have the power to make the choices that either move you toward the life you want or leave you stagnated in a life you hate.
It really is that simple. Discontent with a part of life or who we are lies in the fact that we live in the past or live in the future. Neither of which exist in this moment. True life happiness comes when we live in the moment. And success in what we want to achieve comes from the choices we make in the given moment.
So celebrate the start of the New Year with the intention of holding on to that feeling of celebration each and every day. EVERY MOMENT!
May the New Year fill each of your days with perfect health and unbelievable happiness!
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