Does getting out of bed in the morning rank right up there with visiting the dentist or your gynecologist? You already know how your day is going to go (because it's the same old thing every morning) so you bury your head and start to calculate just how many times you can hit the snooze before you really do need to get up.
It can be difficult to rise and shine if what you're getting up to is screaming kids and chaos. And it's even harder if what you will be facing when you get to work is enough to cripple you from the stress.
Now, I could list a lot of tips on how to be more organized in the morning (like packing lunches the night before and setting out the kids' clothes). Or I could teach you how to be more assertive with your co-worker so that she shuts up and gets her work done. But I'm not going to do that. I'm going to teach you something more effective. Something that not only will have you getting out of bed with a pep in your step, but also help you through any tough moment in the day.
How to Switch Trains...
Trains of thought that is. I know you're probably thinking "Oh man, she's going to get into that psycho-transcendental-mumbo-jumbo stuff." Hang with me. This technique is Wow Momma Approved and even helps the crankiest scrooge get out of bed.
First, check in with yourself. What are you thinking from the moment you're waking up and realizing that another short night of sleep has passed and the day is starting? Do you start running through your day mentally preparing for all the things you just know are going to go wrong? Are you already getting a knot in your throat thinking about the conversation you need to have with your boss? Are you feeling like a bad mom because, if you were honest with yourself, you really do not want to get up and take care of them this morning? This train of negative thought has long left the station and is burning up the track. And as you continue to lay there, the train gains momentum and gets out of control.
I have news for you. Good news actually. Your anxiety and unwillingness to get out of bed has nothing to do with the events you anticipate for the day. Your anxiety comes from your belief that you won't be able to handle the events of the day. Your defense mechanisms are kicking in. You subconsciously believe that if you worry about those events, you might somehow be better prepared for them. But how is that making you feel? Is it working well for you?
In order to get off this dark train, you must first want to wake up happier. Believe it or not, some people think being cranky is working for them. But just ask your family or co-workers if they enjoy being around you in the morning. You might be more unpleasant than you think. Unless, of course, they are all cranky too. In which case, break out the doughnuts and toast the orange juice!
But if you want to feel wonderful in the morning, switch to the party train. That fun, perk-me-up train that has you jumping out of bed and ready to meet the day. Here's how to do it. First become very aware of each thought that comes into your head. If it's negative, push it away. Don't have a mental debate about whether or not it's worth of worry, just send it away. Push hard if you have to.
Next, start pep-talking yourself by stating those wonderful things about you that make you outstanding. Don't make the thoughts about anyone else but you. Here's some to get you started:
"I am strong."
"I am confident."
"I am intelligent."
"I am capable."
"I am complete."
"I am loving."
"I can take on anything!"
"I am a positive light in this world."
"I am a giving friend."
"I am a hard worker."
Keep repeating your affirmations until you are pumped up and ready to go. That negative train will try its hardest to derail you, but simply refuse to power it and continue to recite all those incredible things about yourself.
I won't lie to you. At first, this technique is going to be tough to do, especially if you tend to be obsessive and critical. But keep continuing to make the choice to switch the train your mind gets on. (It is a choice you know.) I have been doing this myself for some time now and my world has changed. My anxiety is gone. I'm not cranky with my family. I feel more relaxed and actually enjoy the morning. Give it a try. You will eventually be able to wake up with a sunny mindset instead of the covers over your head.