As you well know, weight problems are complicated. If changing the habits that are making you fat was easy, you’d be thinner and healthier by now.
Everything we do in life is because we’ve made it a habit. It becomes a habit because we behave in a certain way (including the way we talk about it). We behave in a certain way because we have a certain feeling about it. And we have that certain feeling because of our belief system and the thoughts we have about it. In other words:
Beliefs/Thought create Feelings
Feelings create Words/Actions
Words/Actions create Habits
Belief: If you reject someone’s offer of food, you will look ungrateful or insult them.)
Feeling: Guilt or Worry
Action: You accept the offer and eat the food.
Habit: Every time someone at work brings in a homemade treat, you eat a piece.
Most weight loss programs start by looking at the habit and working backwards. They try to change what you are doing. They teach you how to limit food intake and exercise more. If you’re lucky, some will also teach you how to reduce your stress.
And then they stop.
You must go further…in fact, all the way to the beginning.
If you’re to change your life for good, you MUST address the feelings, thoughts and beliefs behind every unwanted habit and action. Most weight loss programs fail to do this. Therefore they work for a short time and then you slip back into your old habits.
Once you know exactly how you want to feel, it becomes a balance for your beliefs and actions.
Let’s say you figure out that you want to feel STRONG. In line with our example, you know that you must politely decline the offer of food in order to lose weight and therefore feel strong.
But it doesn’t end there.
If you are to feel strong, you must also change your belief/thought. For example, your new belief would be, “My health is more important than anything else in the world. People who truly care about me will be supportive.”
Knowing your desired feeling becomes that grounding point for the changes you want in your life. Not only for improving your weight, but for making any life changes easier to maneuver.
If you are interested in learning more about how to identify your desired feelings so that you can more effectively and permanently lose weight, check out The Weight-Less Life workshops being held soon.